I do have some errands which I need to complete... namely the name change on my identity card and passport and then I would have to inform the banks, the CPF board, income tax and the insurance companies.. but I thought that those errands wouldn't take up that much time and was looking for courses to join and have signed up for a website and webpage design class and also a webpage maintenance tutorial.. OH! and a hair cutting course!! That starts Wednesday and I told the teacher that I just mainly wanted to cut my own fringe and my husband and children's hair in the future.. the classes will be at a hair salon which is near my place and which I used to frequent as a teenager and I remember seeing them train hair stylists but I think they have stopped doing that for a number of years.. and they were rather surprised when I turned up with my request... and now I have ONE brave friend willing to be my model..apparently I need five models...the friend who agreed said, "but my hair is so short...gimme me two weeks to grow it longer.." He's so gracious!! Hehe..but it's true that his hair is very short...it's almost a military crop...
and then I have the fallout from the wedding dinner to handle...
what fallout?
Dealing with disgruntled friends and relatives...
1. a friend who informed me that she had food poisoning and couldn't attend. We had a small tiff a few days before the wedding and I sorta suspected that it might have something to do with her non-attendance... I only sent her a message about 10 days after the wedding dinner to thank her for her blessings and she was offended that it took me so long..she expected me to reply immediately on the day of the wedding to ask after 'a sick friend' (her own words) ... she made quite a number of assumptions which forced me to look into my core beliefs and think about her core beliefs..
mine being: "If a friend does not turn up for my wedding (like the biggest day of my life!), then the friend is not worth keeping..."
hers maybe: "My friend should always ask about how I am when I tell them I am sick no matter how busy or stressed they might be..."
2. my younger sister who thought that I was being horribly mean to her sister in law and friend...the two girls refused to sit where they were allocated and in frustration, I told her that they could go home if they were so unhappy... and she hasn't spoken to me since the wedding dinner and I spoke to her two nights ago and found out that she thought that I had treated them like dogs and asked me very angrily why I had been such a control freak if God is on my side... which makes me want to ask her back the question why she had broken down and cried at the wedding dinner and made the atmosphere so awkward if she has God too... Ah....
and then she came to me the next day and said that she had been praying about the situation and asked God what is so important that she must tell me before I leave for the States and she said that it's 'rest in Him'... so ok, I'm not exactly resistant to the idea but not entirely convinced too... cos I do see the results of her 'resting' (ie: lack of planning) and find the concept baffling.... it's really small things like not planning ahead and getting an EZlink card and having to pay more cash and making thoughtless purchases and not doing research and just seemingly blindly going through life...
but I do see the value of being so intimately connected to God that every step and decision is guided by Him....
Which is not that bad of an idea..I acknowledge that it's definitely easier to follow methods and structures and to use tools...ie: your marriage is on the rocks? Well, have you heard of the Five Love Languages?? etc etc.. instead of first going to the One who created the idea of marriage... it is harder to seek God.. but definitely more rewarding.... hmmm
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